I will warn you, crossing the line to telling the kids is potentially, in your (and also in my) sitch a bridge too far. I would caution you to be sure of what you want (D) before you cross that line.
Every time I discussed telling my daughter about our impending D, W started to back down from her D fantasy. I know your W is saying she doesn't want D, but that might be her ploy to delay the inevitable (telling the kids).
But in general I think you handled the above pretty well. Complete no contact is very very difficult. Especially when you have kids. So the fact that you kept it matter of fact, logistical (Easter brunch discussion) and didn't get sucked into reacting to her emotions was well played. Maybe the SMEs will see it differently but that post above is about as well handled as could be, with the exception of checking her phone records. You need to try to stop doing that because true detachment can't occur with that behavior.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
