Cheers AS, I totally agree with your point on dating. I’m not actively looking for someone else but through all the various groups I have joined, I have met some along the way.
The bit I don’t get, even though I see some many similar stories, is why when we let them go to the OP they say they want, why we still get given such a hard time....
It’s been 2 years and W is still in contact with OM, yet complained in mediation that I took our children out for Valentine’s Day...
I do question what OM really is in my situation, there are little patches where the kids are around him but he doesn’t ask anything about them. Talks to them about plants and stuff he is interested in but never asks about the kids themselves. About there interests but unfortunately they say the same thing about their mother... Part of me wants to confront him and warn him never to touch my kids but doubt it will make much difference although maybe I will hear a different story. Other part of me can’t be bothered wasting my time on a waste of space like him..
Even if W is with him, it’s hard to tell because when I do see her, she mostly looks worse than anytime we were together... W told me 2 yrs ago that he was bisexual, I have wondered if he is the gay friend and she got attracted to a gay man. The bisexual comment never made sense to me.. Sometimes I wonder has W found someone she can dominate...
Something I believe I have realised about my W is that it is not who someone is but what they are prepared to do for her and never confronting her on anything she does, basically, is she actually attracted to a doormat? She said in mediation that she was angry at me because I was doing whatever I wanted to and not listening to her.... “You just do what you want” My answer was “Yep, I’m a single Dad and I do what I want and decide what I think is best for me and our kids”
In other news, house is going up for sale as W kept upping the amount she wanted from me over the past 2 yrs so just finally had enough and will sell it. Divorce proceedings are progressing, just waiting for a court date.
Personally, I keep joining more groups, getting out meeting more new people. Even when I travel for work, I look for Meetup groups etc in the area to get out and meet people. It has really helped my confidence, helps with getting away from the negativity that only comes from W. Do need to get back into the gym though, health is getting back on track so it’s the next step again.
Also looking forward to the spring finally being here so can get hiking again, bit longer for the Alps but plenty of other places to go. Vacation in a couple of weeks too, heading to Bahrain for the Grand Prix, really looking forward to that.
