That escalated quickly; WW's A RESUMES(hoosjim#13)

[hoosjim]

Been doing a lot of thinking last 24. Even if she came back, crawling, on hands and knees, offered me the world... doesn't matter when, tomorrow, next month, next year... I still don't see how it is possible i could ever, ever trust her. I mean, i could insist on and/or she could offer to submit to a lengthy laundry list of transparency and commitment steps but, in the end, if she wanted to cheat she could find a way to cheat. I would never be able to follow her around or monitor her 24/7... nor would i even want to. What a horrible relationship that would be!

I mean, for someone who has been betrayed multiple times (okay, so, one continuous time, but multiple lies), how do you ever get over that? How do you ever trust that person again? I just don't see how it would be possible. You would always have doubts. At least i think i would. And that would end up poisoning the relationship. I don't see how any amount of "grounding" or confidence or whatever on the LBS's part would help. It's simply a matter of common sense and self preservation.

It's like the indian fable of the rattlesnake that bites the boy after the boy picks it up to help it: "You knew what i was when you picked me up."