What frustrated me with my IC is that they didn't seem to be interested in DB-ing just in getting me to move on and GAL. They felt that DB-ing was holding on to the misery. How do your IC's see it?
This is very common. Most counselors see themselves as divorce facilitators. Mostly they believe divorce is inevitable and that their job is to transition couples into D. That's what separates Michele and her coaches from the rest.
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The compromise we jointly reached was to validate and give her the birth certificate but to only give her the marriage certificate if she agreed to meet with me in a safe environment (for instance at the counsellors). That way she can explain her reasoning and we can assume it is actually her (and not her step dad using her email to obtain the documents).
So this meeting never took place? She has never even replied to the email?
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I would claim this to be a small success because my email has made her realise what awful things her parents have done to me.
I think that's mind-reading on your part, she could have moved out for any number of reasons.
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I guess it's just a continuation of GAL and a waiting game now.
What are your GAL and self-improvement activities? This isn't a waiting game, it's a "make yourself amazing" game.
