That escalated quickly; WW's A RESUMES(hoosjim#13)

[Coconut]

Zeus perfectly described what I was saying, his words perfectly describe what I went through, I don't have the eloquence, or patience, to spell it out as such, but he nailed it.

Artista can tell you in detail what and how SHE is feeling, thinking, going through, but don't think knowing that gives you a path to change her. Read artistas words to see and understand the manipulative, uncaring, self preservation mode your W is in, understand that the M doesn't matter to her right now, the only thing that matters to your W is that she gets what she wants right now. Remove her ability to get what she wants, and you will start making a change.

If I could go back and do it again, I would have been willing to go bankrupt, renting my own oceanfront condo, maxing my credit to furnish my new place as I wanted to live MY life, to move forward in finding myself. I know it sounds crazy, but finding myself sooner would of resulted in me saving my M. Because that was the thing missing in my M, my ability to being my own man... You Jim, are not your own man either. I'm not talking about getting a life, I'm talking about having a life, being the most confident person in the room. You need to find yourself before she will do anything not to lose you.

Ps- don't go bankrupt, but don't be afraid of the unknown.