btw--i do not think your wife and have very different fundamental hang ups... they are very similar according to what you have shared... and you and my husband have a few things in common too... but we can talk about those things another time... you are in dire straights right now and we need to focus on the business at hand... btw, i like DonH's idea of staying with a friend for a good week... or more... but a good week would be better than your going back immediately... i am glad you are still asking for advice...
