you are gratified that she went to counseling? of course she went... how could she not? don't be gratified for that... and don't appreciate her apology... and don't mention the letter... why would you care about the stinky letter she wrote 30 seconds after you caught her cheating on you... if anything tell her you don't want the letter... she keeps wanting to give you that stupid letter because you have not allowed her talk with you... girl does not understand space and time... she will get her points across come hell or high water, apparently, and some silly letter is her way to do it... don't take the letter... and regarding living arrangements... you need to say that coming from a position of strength--not compromise... so i suggest rewording it...
