She did advise against physical separation, which I expected, saying that that adds an additional layer of separation which is hard for many couples to overcome. That is the biggest, and really only, difference I can see between the counselor's advice and what I am reading here.
Okay, that's it for now. Fire away!
seems you had a good IC session... and your counselor seems to really get you and your W... and i do think you should support your W's sessions at least at first... and if it comes to be that she is not really putting in the work to getting herself "fixed," you can stop paying for them... if she keeps relying on BFF, i would say that is a sign she is not putting in the work...
but dang it--i do disagree with your counselor as far as living in the same home, as you already know... i cannot see living together as a good thing at this time... i just don't think your W will respect your space... i think she will force discussions... and most of all, she will get comfortable and any urgency to change will wither...
