That escalated quickly; WW's A RESUMES(hoosjim#13)

[hoosjim]

You said both boys were there. Did the oldest son ride back from college, b/c he knew something was going on? Did the boys ask you questions?

I was referring to same boy (S18) both times. He is uneasy and growing more curious. Knows somethings up, obviously. Heartbreaking because he continuously struggles with his Tourettes syndrome and is in therapy himself trying to get "college ready"... and he aint there yet. He is also the closer of the two to my W, and is going to be heartbroken if/when he finds out or when she leaves.

I know you are furious at the OM. Maybe it is natural for any H to want to believe the OM pursued the WW. He may have made first contact, I don't know.....but I think your W is just as guilty as OM. If the OM did contact her first, she should have very firmly told him to never contact her again. I just have doubts that was the case.

I am absolutely certain that by Saturday, W was a willing participant. I have recordings of a couple of her work phone calls with OM (don't ask how I got them-- I have resources) and while they are somewhat muffled, it is clear she is receptive and solicitous. Talking softly, gently putting him on hold when a patient or some other call comes in (I am usually, though not always, told: "I gotta go"), laughing in that odd way that sounds like a different person than I knew, and saying things like "I remember that night". She was definitely not putting him off. Now, it is quite possible that he contacted her first at some point, ill never know, and it is also possible that now, facing what she is facing, that she is sorry and wishes she could go back, but... doesn't change the facts. As to those calls, she doesn't know I have heard them, and I maneuvered her into admitting they had occurred on Saturday. Wasn't hard. in fact, I don't intend to ever tell her I heard them and they will be used as a litmus test if and when she comes to me humble and such and I decide to give it one last try. I would need to hear complete honesty from her... a complete accounting of the affair, including particularly those calls, so that I knew there were no more shoes to drop and she was truly apologetic and not just, as she appears to be doing now, looking to minimize her guilt.