It's a very good idea to discuss with the board whatever you are feeling......and especially, when you feel a strong desire to tell her.

I think it would help you to read the threads about the WW's mindset. It may be difficult to accept, b/c you love her. But at the same time, you would see what you are really dealing with.

Here's the link to the first one.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2545554#Post2545554

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!