Gordie #18: still not divorced

[Gordie]

Andrew,

Thanks for the insight. You have me lots to chew on. I think she’s hard to categorize at this point. She’s a little bit of:

A. Sulking in he room that the world isn’t fair but isn’t going out (for now)
B. Is better @hiding her behavior (don’t think so as she has been more of a home body and then tells me when and where she is going)
C. Is finding out a little more about the world but with my safety net.
D. Getting her act together in baby steps, nothing dramatic.

I did speak to my DB coach and she thought w was doing better than I was giving her credit for. She thought I was expecting big steps and actions but that what I am seeing are baby steps. I should embrace the baby steps. I should be patient. I should keep expectations low. This will take time, a long time.

Journaling:

So w asked me to go out on a date again this weekend. This was our second. Our first one last week was a very awkward first date. It was short and light. And like a clueless guy after a first date, I did not know if it would lead to a second. Well, this second went much better. We engaged in an activity of her choosing which also involved a long drive as it was about an hour away. Afterward she asked if I wanted to go to dinner or go home and I asked her what she wanted to do. She indicated that she’d like to go out to dinner so I found a place within walking distance and had an amazing meal. Conversation flowed freely. Our waiter had movie star good looks and I noticed her noticing but this surprisingly didn’t bother me. We actually joked about it. All in, we spent about six hours together which is the most we have spent together in a very, very long time. No R talk. She gave me a hug at the end of the date and thanked me for such a good time.