I guess I'm coping ok from an emotional perspective. Life is a mess, otherwise.
D has been up and down at school all year. First, everything is fine, then she is failing, then she's doing great, then she's failing. Each time, I make corrections in what we're doing at home, get her some additional support at after school, etc, and we get back on track. Then:
We had parent teacher night a couple of weeks ago. The standard timeslot is 10 minutes with your kid's teacher. XW and I had 45 minutes with both first grade teachers (they tag team both classes, one is stronger in math, the other reading) and the school counselor (whom D has been seeing once a week or so all year). She's in danger of being retained in first grade. What?? Biggest issues are emotional maturity and focus at school. Last time I talked to D's teacher, which was a couple of weeks before that, D was a bit behind but was making progress, and I should keep doing what I was doing (so I did).
Counselor says ADHD is a possibility for the focus, suggests assessment. I make appointment with D's pediatrician, Counselor runs her assessment, pediatrician confirms ADHD-PI (basically ADHD without the H) so D will get more resources at school. We're saving medication until we see how well we can treat this otherwise.
Thursday (two weeks after parent teacher night) D's report card comes home and everything is fine (the very last "1" on her report card becomes a "2" and she's on grade level). I'm so confused.
On the XW front, I got cursed at in front of D again. XW also let me know in uncertain terms just how much she hates me and what a piece of trash I am. I do not respond in kind, but I do accuse her of being a big part of the reason D wasn't doing well in school (W has done homework with Z half a dozen times this year, and all the emotional stress D has due to her mom). Not my finest moment. Didn't say it in front of D at least. XW made it clear that she considers herself more of a parent than me, because "She came out of my vagina" and "you wouldn't even be her daddy if it weren't for me."
Supposed to have D for spring break this week. XW had her last weekend, and simply refused to return her on schedule, stating that "you had her last year" (fun, but irrelevant fact: I had her last year because XW was in Florida screwing OM). Ignores interim parenting plan, which says "day to day schedule shall apply" as being too vague and open to interpretation, says I will get D back on Wednesday afternoon, which, in her words, is "generous" of her. Wrote email to L last night, we'll see what comes of it.
D is seeing an IC and is excited about her visits and enjoying them.
XW has started showing up at Girl Scouts on Monday nights. She showed up at a cookie booth for half an hour when I had D last weekend (after not bringing her to a cookie booth the week before on her weekend). I'm uncomfortable but D is happy, so that's what counts.
Nothing else to report. Stress level at an all time high thirteen months after separation and six months since divorce final. Still down 100lbs since BD... though I haven't lost more since late October, I haven't gained any, either. D still doesn't want to talk to her mom when she's with me, but is happy to see her when she sees her. I don't hear from D when she's with her mother.
