New LBW, H maybe in MLC and now with OW - part 2

[meg24]

Kitkat, yes H had PA about 16 years ago. We separated shortly after s17 was born (he at first said he wasn't getting enough physical attention, then later said he didn't know doctors say no sex after birth until 6-week postpartum visit - really? Baby #3 and he didn't know this?).

We worked through it, but the more I reflect on everything, the more I realize I have never fully trusted him since then. Hence, 3 years later when I was pregnant again, we started having issues because of that lack of trust, and asked for a separation, told him I maybe needed him to move out. This is where the lack of reciprocity comes in. When he had A while seprated, he expected me to wait in the wings until he needed ne (I was young, 3 littles to care, didn't know bettter). When I asked for separation, he said if he left hat was it, no going back, his way or highway (my interpretation).

Yes, he told me on Valentines Day this year he was going to see other people, to see if there was someone out there who would treat him the way he wanted to be treated, and maybe we would R later, maybe not, he didn't know.

At this point I have absolutely no expections of H, no expectations of R. If H decides he wants R, we will see where I am at that point in time. If H wants D, he will have to do that work (I am, however, setting up meeting with L to know my rights).

Not much planned for GAL this week, just work and hanging out with my kids (they come out of their rooms a lot more to talk, hang out, noe with H out of the house). Friday I have vacation day, that night going line dancing with sisters. Next weekend time with kids for Easter. S19 said today we all need to go target practice at gun range and start teaching d13. We may fo that next weekend.