however, it seems to be everyone's opinion here, that would be perfectly fine, and even the good move to make sure I tell her that I think that she has a problem problems that she needs to work out on her own, and let her compulsive and repeated returns to the OM are evidence of that. Part of me also really wants to tell her that if she is serious about getting herself right that she should reexamine who her closest confidants are, perhaps without specifically naming BFF.. but I am a little weary about doing that because I fear it may have the opposite effect. I don't know. Let me know y'all thoughts.
There has been quite a bit written on your thread today. Have you read everything?
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And I also intend to say that to my wife. They need to be told the truth. This is going to probably cause a major meltdown because it is her major fear and darkest nightmare. So any thoughts on how to handle an approach that would be appreciated as well.
I strongly suggest you don't use telling the boys as a threat.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
