One more thing from my personal experience... When I had been banished from the home (3 days) I first reached out to pastor to intervene... H told pastor he didn't want to talk with me, listen to me, see me... He needed space... He and our sons stayed in our house... I stayed at a hotel because I didn't want my parents to know what was going on...
The next day I told our pastor I wanted to see our sons. He arranged it with H... H said I could pick them up at certain times at the end of our driveway (large property)... I picked them up, and we went to lunch... After lunch we went and did a few things... One of the boys said something that made my heart fall to my toes... Something about divorce... After I took the boys home, I called the pastor and asked if my marriage was over... I could not believe it!!! He wants to end our marriage???!!!! Pastor said it was way too soon to know...
The following night I was all alone in my hotel room... H would not return my texts... Actually he did text a couple, and they were mean and cold... I finally texted him and threatened suicide. We knew someone whose sister recently committed suicide and I said I was going to kill myself the exact same way.
Right after that I determined to drive to the house... As soon as I drove out of the hotel parking lot, I was pulled over by the police... H called 911, told them what I said, told them where I was, told them what I was driving... OMG... I just said I was going to kill myself to get a reaction... They called the ambulance, took me to the hospital and handcuffed me to my bed so I would not hurt myself!!! I was there as a 5150!!!
I had to talk with a psychiatrist there as I was handcuffed... And a security guard stood outside my door!!! I later found out that H and my sons and pastor and his wife saw the whole thing as I was being placed in the ambulance!!!
