I think it's too soon to go home, and definitely too soon to talk with her, too soon to listen to her. And too soon for meeting with MC... Let her take the spot by herself.
She has not felt the loss. The first day is scary... She is in self-preservation mode.. not marriage preservation yet. She wants to talk to make you understand why she did what she did. She has no excuse, but she thinks she does because of her WW mentality...
Don't let her back in... It's too soon...
Jim, please listen to Artista about this ^^^^^^^^^^^^.
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I don't believe this was the first time they met up since July. I think she met with him that time after work when hoosjim stopped by her office and she was wearing the jewelry OM gave her, and she had the hot clothes in her bag to change into after work. And I think she met with him when she came home late from the wine hour back in February...
I don't think it's the first time, either, and I had even forgotten about the jewelry and extra change of clothes after work.
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You cannot tell her your terms right now. She has not earned to even have you consider what your terms would be. If she doesn't work toward that, she will do it again... I did... The first couple of times I was caught, and I smoothed things over, (one time I was kicked out of the house for 3 days, then H let me back in) I did it again...
I am so glad you are here to help, Artista!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
