Overall I’ve been feeling miserable...I honestly miss my W. I recently began writing a letter to my W...I know that this may have very little to no affect on my sitch but I have to let her know how I feel before it’s too late...because I truly feel like she is slipping through my hands.
You are feeling a lot of pain, regret, and fear. If writing out a letter helps you deal with emotions better, then write it. But don't put it in an email (some H's reported to accidentally hitting "send" button). Pouring out your feelings, is not going to change her heart. If it would work, that's the first thing we would have told you to do.
The desperation you are feeling must be horrible. Perhaps you think a letter won't make things worse.......but what if you knew it would push her even futher away from you? A H's bleeding heart is not attractive to a W who has another man in her head. You still think of her being like the girl you fell in love with. That girl would have cared how you are feeling. This wayward woman she is today, does not care. If I really told you how she felt, it would hurt you even worse. She doesn't want to hear or read how you feel. Giving her a letter is pursuit. It is not fighting for your M.
Staying out of sight and sound, is the best thing you can currently do to fight for your M. Don't use your daughter to relay messages to your W. Only text when it is strictly about D12, and it is strictly business. Don't make up excuses, b/c W will see through them and it will be a bad turn off. Know what I mean?
If you love your W, let her go. If you want to fight for your M, then start creating a life apart from her. GAL for real. Stay away from her. Don't contact her. Self improve. Let "time" do its work in her life.......and you will see better results than any of this other stuff your emotions are dictating to do.
This is not what you really wanted to hear. ((hugs))
We are being honest and telling you what works and doesn't work.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
