Was she saying or implying this was the first time she had seen OM since July? You just happened to catch her the first time they met in person?
She may feel it was a mistake to meet with OM, now that she was caught. Nevertheless, she was talking with him on the phone, right? So......what if you had not caught her?
I don't believe this was the first time they met up since July. I think she met with him that time after work when hoosjim stopped by her office and she was wearing the jewelry OM gave her, and she had the hot clothes in her bag to change into after work. And I think she met with him when she came home late from the wine hour back in February...
Whenever you, hoosjim, shared your concerns with her, she was so flippant...
You cannot tell her your terms right now. She has not earned to even have you consider what your terms would be. If she doesn't work toward that, she will do it again... I did... The first couple of times I was caught, and I smoothed things over, (one time I was kicked out of the house for 3 days, then H let me back in) I did it again...
I will keep posting as I think of things to share...
