I did a "reach out" to XH through text, asking if he would meet to talk. He and I met for lunch and I was able to apologize and let him know that I thought I might have finally figured out what he was trying to tell me about how he felt in certain specific instances in the past. He seemed touched that I had made the effort to understand, and that my interpretation was right. We had pleasant conversation, interspersed with more of my attempts to apologize/seek validity for my interpretations of ways I now realized I had hurt him.
On his part, he seemed to want to make sure that I realized that he didnt think I needed to change (I told him I did and was). The other part...um...his door is not shut. We had a very nice hug at the end of our talk. I let him know I missed talking to him as a friend. He said we would talk again soon. That is enough for now as far as I am concerned. Will life come crashing down on my head if we never speak again or he freaks out on me in some imperceptable way? No. I'm happy with that for now. Back to my books.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16