WW's A ended, Now piecing(?) but slow, thread #12

[hoosjim]

Moving very fast. Many many good ideas and suggestions and support. Thanks, all. Your kindness moves me.

she may suspect that you know something, which is could be why her mood is down..

She may, but not because of my demeanor. I have been steady to MORE warm in that regard. One of the "tells" was that she got real funny when i mentioned i could go to her gym with her (she is a member of a less "serious" gym-- more of a ladies/families place-- not that some ladies aren't very strong, dedicated, and impressive lifters/bodybuilders, but you know what i mean-- more of a social gym) next week because mine is going to be closed that week for renovations. She got REAL quiet about that. No "that would be a good idea", but no voiced objections either.. like she was nervous. It is on one or two of these gym trips (and she just started going to the "new" club which is, TA-DA, less than half a mile from OM's house come to find out-- there is also a Walmart across the street, which is where she bought her old straight talk phones and she has studiously avoided all walmarts since july.) I think that might have tipped her alarm bells, though.

The main thing that started my radar spinning was about a week and a half to two weeks ago, she started bringing up the "Well, i was
"done" at that point that I had the affair" or "the marriage was already over" or "The reason that that was able to happen was because i had reached that lonely desperate place that i was in"... not even a caveat of "I know what i did was wrong, though, and i own that. MC (and yall) had been adamant that that "narrative" or any others that sought to deflect blame for the affair was a very bad sign, and it had to go away if we were to believe she was on the right track. And it DID go away, for a couple of months at least, only to reappear just now.


Ill have more later. We went shooting at the range today. New experience for her, she was very excited. Like nothing in the world is wrong.

Tomorrow she is "going to the gym"... Her: "I am going to do an extended workout, both cardio and weights so i may be there for a while...

Also, she IS seeing bff. This weekend. Sunday she's going down to bff's home town an hour or so south of here to get "leg and bikini wax" for the first time, supposedly so she can get used to the procedure and do it again before our mexico vacation (if it happens.)

Another tidbit. Her work gf, who i actually trust, did something odd today. "Invited" me via phone text to join "Marco Polo" app, which is a video messaging app. Not sure how easy it is to track messages on that app, but, when scrolling down my contact list once i installed the app, who would you guess i saw with the little dot indicating they were a member of the app as well? OM, of course!! An app used primarily by tweens and twenty somethings. My W's 20-something work friend, my W, now me, and OM were the only ones on my contacts list who show as being on this thing...





And, finally, answers for Sandi2 again:

Did she have a session with the IC, or just ask about the app?

Has she continued to snuggle with you in bed, or has she pulled back?

She did NOT have her Follow up IC session, just asked about the app, and apparently still "bungled" the appointment. I told her to text MC to confirm, which she did-- confirmed that it hadn't gone through. W then said "she will try her best to work it in this week."

Last night, after the talk about the wine hours, she was a little more distant. But today hanging out and at the range she was very bubbly and touchy feely again. Touched me just about every chance she had in passing.





Artista, interesting idea, that it could be a different OM. The only hard intel i have (hearing bits and pieces of one side of a phoncon) could actually be with any man. It could also, if you stretch just a bit, be convo with a GF, but tone and tenor say prolly not. Also, was someone who was familiar with one of my kids' old GFs, with whom my kid hasn't been seeing for some time, so likely not someone new. But W had that sultry, unrestrained kind of laugh she used to get with OM, like she sounds like a completely different person. At one point she purrs "I was just remembering that night" (Making me think maybe A did go Phys at some point, about which i had been somewha doubtful.)

To all: it's pretty circumstantial and sketchy... but i know. I know. But, like i posted previously, i strongly believe that i need to be certain. I need a smoking gun.