I see what your are saying and maybe he is ok with his life and his choices its is possible-maybe he is happy
But looking from the outside he is a man who abandoned his wife and had an affair statistics are usually not great for affairs to last, but some will and do he is in debt and in hiding he makes no effort to get D or do the right things He is a workaholic
This list does not sound like a happy camper to me
People do not become suddenly happy by just being in a new R That is very short term hapiness
Usually Happy and successful people have a conscious, they choose to better themselves they choose right behavior They pay their debt
But maybe he found a way around Karma and he is happy and doing fabulous even though he made bad choices
Maybe you can find a way to be ok with that and let him go with love, trusting that God will take care of you also-
I know this is not easy- but I only suggest this to you- so You can feel more peaceful we have to find a way to acceptance for our and everyones peace
Good luck my friend I have faith in your recovery from this
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