River

I see what your are saying and maybe he is ok with his life and his choices
its is possible-maybe he is happy

But looking from the outside
he is a man who abandoned his wife and had an affair
statistics are usually not great for affairs to last, but some will and do
he is in debt and in hiding
he makes no effort to get D or do the right things
He is a workaholic

This list does not sound like a happy camper to me

People do not become suddenly happy by just being in a new R
That is very short term hapiness

Usually Happy and successful people have a conscious, they choose to better themselves
they choose right behavior
They pay their debt

But maybe he found a way around Karma and he is happy and doing fabulous even though he made bad choices

Maybe you can find a way to be ok with that and let him go with love, trusting that God will take care of you also-

I know this is not easy- but I only suggest this to you-
so You can feel more peaceful
we have to find a way to acceptance for our and everyones peace

Good luck my friend
I have faith in your recovery from this


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow