meg24, he is having an A with OW... at this point, you can drop the rope and work toward fully detaching... this is where GAL would benefit you... had you been doing that, you might have been able to say, "gee, tonight doesn't work for me... i have plans..."
i would not care about "more of the same," at this point... no matter what he says, if it is concerning your M, he needs to give you your space to process it... don't feel as though you need to automatically share your feelings... you may not even know what your feelings are...
meg24, you are still placing him above yourself... you must put you and your sons first... i keep imagining him with OW on his motorcycle in front of OW's fiance while you are at home with his/your sons... he is living an entire life that you really know nothing about... a life that does not include you nor your sons...
in any case, i am with BluWave... no matter what he brings to you tonight, you will be able to handle it... you were a champ when your sons were "who knows where?" you are resourceful, thoughtful and determined... remember to put yourself above him...
