Your best bet is to follow Sandi's rules and to read up on the validation cheat sheet. Go into this assuming the worst and be prepared for the worst. You can still respond the same way. Listen, listen, listen, and say very little. Don't show him your cards. Let him stew in his on BS that he will try and serve you. When you remain graceful and strong, you dilute their reasoning for leaving and they know it!
Thank you so much Blu. I value your input greatly. My concern with just listening and saying very little, one of his complaints has been that I don't communicate my feelings enough. Won't this appear as "more of the same"?
I think maybe I can even handle if he says he's filing for D, but he usually follows through with what he says. He is also a person that holds a grudge, and has no patience. My biggest concern is him telling me he won't pay to me what he said he would. In California I can request alimony in D, and with 2 minors at home still, and possibly able to get lifetime child support for special needs s21; all of which can be garnished from his paycheck.
Holy cow this is really got my mind spinning.
Me-44,H-44 S21,S19,S17,D13 M-22,T-29 (off and on prior to M) BD:12-20-17 (H said he had things to work out in his head) H moved out:3-4-18
