this is a sign... i used to do this for two reasons... one was to kind of appease my H... make him feel good about us...
the other was to read him... did he accept my snuggles, or footsies in bed? did it bring a smile to his face? that made me think all was fine and my betrayal had not been detected... it was as temp check...
if he wasn't playful back, then i had suspicion that he was suspicious of me... tell-tale signs...
if he pulled back, then i pulled back too, in a kind of pi$$y way... like: "if you're going to be mad, so am i." and i really felt like i had the right to be mad at him for being mad at me... and neither of us were exchanging words here, it was all subtle behaviors...
personally, hoosjim, i did not think she was back in touch with OM, but i did not count it out... again--it is in what she says and what she does not say... i did think she was leaving herself open to OM2, and i even thought (and think) she might like a long-distance EA at some point... i do not think she wants an on-going full-on relationship with OM... she wants the A with him, while still having the marriage...
and i think Sandy is right... that she will likely come up with a plan to get together with BFF soon...
your situation makes me see just how awful i was to H...
