I agree with Coconut. I've occasionally read your thread; all of the finessing drives me insane (yes, it's a short drive). I prefer the simple two-step method:
1. Boot the offending spouse out on their @ss. (It's okay to provide boxes and tape.) 2. Move on with your life.
And yes, that's very insensitive of me, but I'm an insensitive clod and I couldn't be an insensitive clod if I weren't insensitive. Sorry.
