WW's A ended, Now piecing(?) but slow, thread #12

[Coconut]

I have a difficult time not commenting on your thread and I don't know why.. maybe it's because I see so much of myself in your posts, well my old self, and I feel like I want to save you.

Here's the thing, if you know that she is talking to him, then you have to decide if you're going to continue on with this for another few years and have BD#3, #4, #5, etc.. or if you are going to change the dynamics.

If you continue with the "why is she acting like that", "I need to tell her...", "how do I act when/if..." then you are continuing this dynamic. If you want to change this dynamic, then you need to act in a way that is going to result in one of two outcomes:

1. She realizes that she lost you and wants you back so badly she is willing to do anything, and will let you know she is willing to do anything.

2. She realizes that she lost you and realizes its what she wants.

If you want to end the endless suffering you're in (and it is endless suffering), you need to completely let her go and only look at you. I didn't know what that meant until I physically separated from my ex and I suspect that you won't be able to do it either.

No conversations, no explanations, maybe a statement "I do not feel respected in our R, I do not feel that it is a partnership and I will not continue in a R where we don't come first and foremost in each others lives, Goodbye"...