Hi Gordie, I appreciate the idea you shared with me.
Husband is coming out of the tunnel step by step, thank God for his grace ! I have to say the past four years were the most horrible experience I had in my life. I'm the survivor from his crisis (everybody can !)
He might not need my help when stepping out from that crisis, I want to be the light and support when he needs it, husband and I are changed, the way we see things, the way we act/react. 'Growing' I should say, the mistake I made when I entered in marriage life with him was I stopped growing. I want things be still, without any change, which is impossible ! I must say I was hurtful and it was really painful when he was deep in the mist of crisis, the projection, the other women (there were two) the verbal abuse, the deny of our relationship... but I know it was not him, he was bundling with his terrible past.
He asked me for such short trip before he entered into his crisis, I always say 'No'. I was quite selfish, I only do things I like, I love, I enjoying doing. Now I would love to be the 'partner' when he wants to explore new things.
It is 100% ok for you to decline it. You do whatever you like and willing to
