Hi Pax, I'm sorry things are still difficult for you. Know that you will get to the other side of this. This is a phase and it will also pass. The main thing is to look after yourself and take reasonable care of your own interests too.

The comment that stood out for me was around you refusing to budge because his antics are ridiculous. My best advice is to focus only on the big ticket areas. For me, I decided to let the smaller stuff go in the interests of achieving settlement. One of the 'smaller' items was that XH had spent �1000's on his new partner during our period of separation. But actually, we were lucky enough to have significant assets to divide. And whilst it was a bit galling at the time, I decided not to 'go there.'

Resolving things, and resolving them in a way you can live with - and rebuild a life with - are the primary aims here and it is best to always remember that. I was lucky enough that XH was reasonably amenable and things were resolved relatively quickly and without overt conflict - I'm lucky and feel grateful for that....

Take care and I hope things settle down for you soon xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus