I got a few gut reactions to what happened with this latest wine down and thought I'd share.

First off, I'll bet that your W was making comments, perhaps just very off handed light, but still relaying that you might be mad that she's staying after work. That's why I think her GF texted you. I've seen this happen and had it happen with my own exW many years ago. Get a friend to call and smooth things over. I've even seen where the friend will call and ask H if W can stay out one more hour with them.

Next, she knows deep down she should not be doing this and that's why she brought it up and PROJECTED it onto you claiming that you are mad. It's this wayward rebellious part still active in her. She doesn't want to be wrong (more on that in a minute) and also doesn't want to be told what to do.

It's been my experience that people get the most upset when they know that what they are being told is the truth and they don't like it. The more the truth hits them, the madder they get. If your W is getting upset it's because she KNOWS she should not be doing what she is doing but doesn't want to stop. I also think you are correct in that's why she asked about the app - to show you she's being a "good girl".

My last thought however goes to you. Why in the heII do you still not have YOUR wedding ring replaced? This has been talked about now for months and months. Why are YOU dragging YOUR feet on this? I thought you had already decided you were going to go get a replacement ring? I thought that was already decided? You were getting a ring, going to put it on and see if she follows your lead? I'm stumped as to why you have not done this yet? Go get it done - TODAY.


DonH
Midwest
Me 56
WAW-EXW 55
Met 11/95 / Married 5/00
Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06
4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D