Thank you so much Sanding, it amazes me how clear and helpful you are to each and everyone of us here. I agree with 100 percent of what you wrote and feel I have been doing a good job treating the w as a roommate. ( No longer say good morning, goodbye, good night, etc).
The one struggle I have with what you spoke about is the kids activities. This weekend for instance is Maine Maple Sunday. I plan to take the girls to a local farm with sugar shack to enjoy the homemade maple syrup products. I typically would invite the W so the girls would not pick up on anything and ask questions. You think it's best if I just go with out her? Same for Saturday. Both D5 and D7 got great report cards so I told them I'd take them out for dinner. I figured it would be best if she was part of that meal but maybe that is the NGS in me?
Me:37 W:42 T:14 yrs M:10.5 yrs D:7 D:5 BD: 1/6/18 OM Discovered: 1/29/18 WW moved out 5/12/18