I can definitely see he is purposefully trying to be stubborn. He doesn't want to listen to what I have to say, and tries to do the opposite of what I was saying I wanted. I feel like he's trying to assert his ground, but I'm not going to let that happen if it causes me stress and negatively affects our marriage. I think this definitely has to do with his entitlement and thinking he should be making the calls.
this behavior is not the behavior of a remorseful spouse... the attitude that your H is displaying here is going to be nothing but trouble for you... you will not be able to reason with him... he does not care... you are not his priority... he has no self-awareness... he should be embarrassed that he has to make things up in order to hang out with the "in-crowd" at work... if i were that OW, after he sent an email to HR about my being inappropriate, i would go to HR and tell them that i spoke with his wife because she texted me, and i would tell them what his wife said, and everything he is doing just to be near me...
you know what you need to do... you need to kick his disrespectful a$$ out and move FOWARD with your life... you set boundaries... now you need to follow through, because if you don't, as you know--those boundaries are useless and may as well be open borders for him to do as he pleases... that he said he wants to be free to do what he wants and have his wife is an insult to your marriage... he cannot have both... at this point, because you cannot trust him, you need to have the guts to make his choice for him: BE FREE... but BE FREE with ME... and then you need to GAL--BIG TIME...
once you are a part, you can take your time to decide what you want to do...
