[meg24]

Sarah, I read some similar behaviors in both of our H's. Mine is very manipulative, very self-indulgent, and tries to make me feel as if I'm completely at fault (then 5 minutes later says that he's the a&!hole for doing this to his family), and tries to project his behavior on to me.

I must say that life at home is much quieter and calmer since he moved out, and I am ablr to step back and see the whole picture more clearly.

I know you say if your H moves out that you're moving on. But ask yourself if that's what you're really ready for. I'm not ready to move on, but I am ready to move forward.

I applaud your ability to set boundaries. I didn't seem to be able to when H was home. Good luck, stay strong.