WW in MLC affair and I need advice..

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My thoughts are that it may not have been the best timing to bring a revolver home.

Thank you Sandi, I appreciate your view point and totally understand. I will remove the gun safe and gun from the home until she leaves. By doing so, wont this send her the message she is still in control or is it more of a validating response?

I am at the beginning of my journey to detach and GAL, other than those two things do you have any advice on home I should interact with her over the next 4-6 weeks before she moves out?

I was concerned last night she was going to use the handgun issue as a starting point for a discussion. Much to my surprise she never mentioned it and was very friendly to the point it was annoying. For example, she saw I was looking for something in the pantry. She figured out I wanted a snack and then started naming what was around to eat. I said I'll just have two oreo cookies. She continued to list off items even after I had left the room. This is the old wife, caring and helping, often times catering to me. Later on she asked to borrow a cellphone charger that in the past she would just take. Then she made it a point to find me and tell me she returned it. I have a hard time with these swings of emotions and want to make sure I am staying on track. I talked with another lawyer today and at the end of the consultation, he reaffirmed my thought that right now is not the time to file for divorce. He did this by asking me if I thought she would attend IC. I said I thought she would eventually but believe the first three sessions she did was forced or talked into by someone other than me. When I asked her to go with me she agreed but pushed it off and never went. No sense in going if you are still in an affair right? If I pursuade her to go it wont help but maybe a few months down the road it could be mentioned? The lawyers point was also to come to agreement together outside of court and it helps everything (even if we divorce) because it will cause less tension and we have years left that we will be seeing each other and attending school functions, graduations, etc. I think this put into perspective time a little for me. Lets take it day by day with no expectations, continue to work on myself, and see how things go.