Lady V, your "visitor" worries me. Please take all extra precautions you can. I worry for you and your safety, though I have no doubt you can absolutely take care of yourself.
As for the weight issue, I think I have the opposite problem from you. You mentioned you'd always been thin, athletic, fit and you mentioned that you are short (5'4"). I have always been heavy. I never in my life had a time when I was thin or fit looking. I'm also tall. I'm 5'11". But while I know many men are not into plus size women, I have been lucky to find my share of men who just don't care or even are attracted to someone fuller figured. I recently decided FOR MYSELF I'm going to actively work on becoming more fit and in that endeavor, I believe I will actually lose weight, but I'm not doing it for the sake of being more attractive to men, but mainly because I'm 48 years old and I want to be able to continue to have a fun and active lifestyle for many, many more years and I won't be able to if I just completely let myself go. If you want to lose 7 pounds, go for it, but know, like the others before me said, that men aren't really going to care if you lose it or keep it. I have no doubt that you are a lovely, striking lady in real life. At least my mind's eye paints you that way.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
