I am so very glad that your Ds understand and have healed from all that has happened. My sitch is so similar to yours and I am working with my kids to help with their understanding and healing from our experience.
My hope is the same as yours, that our kids grow, learn, and accept so they do not revisit past trauma at a future time.
For what it’s worth your conversation with XW seems to have gone well and sounds better than previous ones. I can see why you feel great.
I have often thought of you, your Ds, and your sitch, and I am always glad to read your updates and comments.
Best of luck.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.