Oh KML- your story! Our exes and their guilt gifts. Bleh. So crazy. My ex was not thoughtful with gifts because he did not believe in sentimentality. It would drive me crazy that we would go into a store and he would pick out the first thing he saw without any thought as who the recipient was. Ok- in some respects it doesn't sound that bad.... But it drove me nuts that he didnt actually want to give a gift, he did so out of obligation. (Hmmmm the only thing he felt obliged to do) Anyway, the last gifts I got from him were the most thoughtful things I ever received from him. He actually thought of ME. They weren't extravagant, but he found items I would appreciate and enjoy (in my style too). It was a first.... And then he dumped me.
Also, thanks for the house tidying tips. When my divorce is final and finances are stable, I will definitely get a housekeeper to help with the deep cleaning stuff! That will be great!
So.... On to a question.....
Things were a little too quiet in the ex's camp, so I was suspecting that something was up. On Monday morning, I woke up with a sense of something coming my way. Sure enough, I was right. Ex is up to his litigious self.
He reminds me of a super villain who rages at the drop of a pin. I imagine him a monster yelling things like--- "how dare you cross me?!?!?! I'll show you.... You'll rue the day you defied me!!!!"
What do I do about this? Obviously I can't disclose any more than this because he would sue me and I can't afford any new lawyer fees!
While it is emotionally stressful and draining, I'm not giving him or his craziness much head space, but I have had enough of his bs. I was talking to a friend about it and she asked, "why can't you just talk to him face to face about this?" Now on every day planet earth, of course that is the approach I would take a million times over. Afterall, it's hard to hate someone up close. But in MLC land, I think I just need to stand my ground and keep digging in and refusing to succumb to his bullying tactics.
Am I correct in maintaining this solid approach? I refuse to budge just because his antics are rediculous.
What do you think? There's absolutely no point in trying to extend an olive branch in an attempt to have a reasonable dialogue with him, right?!
