Newbie trying to gain control

[Gordie]

S,

Great to hear from you. I understand taking a break from the board. That’s healthy too. So reading through your post:

W still seems undecided if she wants to be M or not.

She doesn’t want you looking at her phone.

She wants to come and go as she pleases without telling you.

She is text flirting with other guys.

This does not sound like a woman who is working on her M.

Is this okay with you or not?

If okay, then take all pressure off. No R talks. Just live your own life as if she is not your wife, just the mother of your child. A roommate. An extended family member with whom you are not close. Give her a lot of space and time to think. This is where I am now.

What is your boundary? What would make you say you are not okay wth this?