WW in MLC affair and I need advice..

[Natash]

Just an update: I've been distancing myself and enjoying any time I get to spend with my girls.

My wife's new bf's husband sent me a text recently out of no where (having texted for over a month with him). Stating that I should not be talking about his wife and saying she is filling my W's head full of [censored]. I never said this or anything along the lines. I dont know what the W BF is or isnt telling her. I very rarely speak about other people and never try to do it behind there backs as I am a very honest and upfront person. I told him there were more than one inaccurate statements in his text and maybe its time to meet up for a beer and talk. He said that could be arranged. Less than 24 hours later his wife texts me stating the same thing. How they want to be there for me and I haven't reached out to them (didnt think it was my responsibility or the best thing to do as it would create a loop between me and the W. Not to mention, my other friends that know have reached out and helped me...not the other way around) and now I am saying she is filling my W's head full of BS. I told W BF the same thing, I dont know who has said what to you but lets sit down and talk. Neither one of them responded to my replied texts. I am thinking the W spent the weekend trying to bad mouth me and is fishing?

Then, over the weekend, I bought a new handgun without telling my wife. How could I, she wasn't home. She did not confide with me before having an affair and choose to wreck our M and distance myself from me. I said to myself, I've been wanting one for a while. Bought a top drawer safe for it and put it in the safe by my bedside. W sees the box 2 days later under our bed and asked why I never told her. Continues on how the kids can get it,blah blah blah. I told her she was wrong, but understand her concerns. The gun is locked away, out of sight, out of mind (the kids dont know it exists). She keeps going (via text that I ignored because I had already asked her to have this talk in person and not txts when at work) on how it needs to be put up higher and out of reach. She's acting like it is the first time a gun came into the home...no mention of the shotgun that has been bedside for years. Just needed to vent.