Husband gone for second time - 3

[25yearsmlc]

Nicole


I suggest you see a L asap b/c the divorce will be the most important financial transaction of your life.

And there's a chance he will want to reconcile someday. To ME, most likely that could only happen if he really believes he's losing you and your daughter. NOT by you putting up with his irrational rude behavior that you should NOT put up with.

You CAN calmly say "don't talk to me like that. I deserve better and so does she." Then leave the room and do NOT expect an apology or wait for his response. Hang up if he does that on the phone.

Do NOT expect him to be kind or fair in the divorce. With the way you describe his present behavior, it's text book MEAN and he will be that way the second you disagree with his wishes for the divorce.

You need an aggressive lawyer. Do NOT wait for your h to take the initiative in the divorce b/c that will be a blizzard attack, and please get a hold of financial information. Do Not Trust him.

I cannot tell you how SHOCKED I was when my h, just after I was released from the hospital with a life altering sudden illness, left AND took ALL the money in the joint accounts leaving me with $700 to my name. I didn't know anyone in the area b/c we had just moved there for his job, (job number 20??) and he went off to Alaska for his NEW great job...

I spun around for awhile due in part to my illness but also to my "refusal" to see the truth.

Get a hold of what the assets are, account numbers and whatever else a lawyer tells you.

I would see the L before you leave the state. SERIOUSLY. Otherwise you have to live in the new state for awhile before you can file there.

Your h refusing to let you in YOUR home to get YOUR property is a level of bullying that borders on crazy.

I filed in CA and then moved east b/c CA was where we had lived for 16 years and I didn't know the laws of the state I was moving to.

Please, protect yourself AND your d, more....a lot more.

And know that this gets better. Truly. But get your armor and helmet on b/c this guy is going to lob some missiles at you.

Steel yourself. And see if there is a DivorceCare group nearby. It's incredibly helpful to meet people in your shoes.

Hang in there


((( )))