I read over your last post (still wish you'd put a summary in your signature block to remind us of your history).
So, when a woman does not feel desired by her h, it's a bigger blow to the ego than men realize. And
It's unusual, and the rarity of it makes it harder on the ego, imo.
I think it's ironic to hear you say you felt used for sex, as opposed to her really needing and wanting more intimacy and more passion. Many people feel closer with sex, as it's a bond.
Food for thought.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016