Me being mr Nice Guy even offered to stop drinking in solidarity with her.
You being Mr. Nice Guy contributed (in part) to the downfall in your MR. She has been guilty of terrible things, that's undisputed. My concern is for your future. Please learn about the Nice Guy Syndrome and how to change some of those ways of thinking. Otherwise, you stand a good chance of experiencing another painful relationship. I'm sure you don't want to go through this a second time.
Stop trying to change your W. Stop trying to help her. Stop telling her you will do xyz to get her to do the same. None of that works. You are still holding on to her. Let her go.....for real.
Rather than being in "limbo", as you called it, why not mourn the M that has died.......and maybe you can release yourself to move on with your life. ((hugs))
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So wife's BFF wants to hang out with her husband and daughter(my godchild) today. I'm in 2 minds about this. I do like them but I dont know how to treat it as there will be inevitable talk of W and what she's doing. I'm frankly getting tired of talking about W and realtionship but I'll probably let BFF know exactly why I told my family what I did. Just the indisputable facts and then I'll try to steer away from it.
My advice is to stay clear of all of W's friends. Do not trust her BFF who wants to hang out. Sounds like a mission to me. She will get all the inside information she can, and report it back to WW. Stay clear of discussing the subject of WW.
You are going to make it through this hel! Keep going, keep moving, keep growing, and keep living. Look toward the future, instead of looking back at your WW. Hold your head high and march on, never compromising your integrity. ((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
