WW's A ended, Now piecing(?) but slow, thread #12

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Ginger, this is in response to your last post on my previous thread:

What I mean is, does she actually have any very close girlfriends who are her age? And not BFF? maybe she needs to open up a bit to a new circle of friends, a more positive circle.

Her very closest friends are bff and another girl who was a friend of mine in college (and is also an XW of a college frat brother and friend of mine, though that friend and I are no longer close, in part because of how badly he treated his XW, my own W's current friend.) She has some other fairly close friends her age but... they are not particularly "fun" and her two closest are-- guess what-- in somewhat strained/troubled marriages of their own. We have gone out with the one couple a handful of times-- they are nice and we get along and I like them, but I worry more about them dragging us down than I have confidence that we will "pull them up", though, TBH, we have seemed to be accomplishing a good bit of the latter with them.

Her work GFs, though younger, are very nice, and even, in the case of the one who most hangs out at the after work wine-downs with her, very Christian, so I don't necessarily worry about them being bad influences... except for their seeming acceptance as "okay" of these evenings hanging out with the doc.

W, outside of work, which is VERY demanding of her, does not have any hobbies or activities, really. She, like me, threw herself almost totally into parenting over the past several years. We do both like music and have been spending a lot of time exploring the local music scene. She also dipped her toe into the paddling world last summer/fall and we went kayaking a handful of times. She has talked frequently--eeven since the time we first met-- about taking a motorcycle class but never pulled the trigger. Last week, for the first time, she intimated that maybe we could do that together. She has also talked fairly regularly about going shooting and about being curious about that. I have thought about taking her to a range sometime, but somehow that seems kind of "anti-romantic". She also LOVES to dance, but I have always been a somewhat self-conscious dancer even as I would love to do so with her. She mentions going out dancing with her GF's from time to time but, obviously, that would be with her current GFs.