What I mean is, does she actually have any very close girlfriends who are her age? And not BFF? maybe she needs to open up a bit to a new circle of friends, a more positive circle.

I will be honest, yes, us women share everything. The only reason why I would never have an open phone policy with my significant other is what I say to my very very close GF's. But I only share with my closest most trusted friends.

Are there activities she enjoys that might open her up to a more solid group of friends and not gossipy 20 somethings?

Come to think of it, doesn she have any activities aside from these "winedowns" that she takes part in? That she does on her own? A special gym class? Volunteering? Something?