A familiar story with questions. III

[Vanilla]

There is a psychological mechanism referred to as intermittent reward or punishment.

If your questions objections, satisfying YOUR need to know, emerge at random, then that is the most important factor to W.

It is referred to as walking on eggshells.

It is one of the most damaging things you can do.

In my view that's why we say no R talks, it is because such talks are magnified in the others mind and are seen as punishing.


I think that it is possible you know this. And you might want to ask why your needs and timing supercede W rights to her privacy. Why do this just for your curiosity.

If you want such talks plan them with W, limit the time you spend on them and both talk.

It is so so damaging, as a WAW I found this meant the 'nice' times were more than weighted by even a small number of intermittent blame transactions. Your W apologised to you.

In order to get peace from this I left completely.

My thoughts

V