Quote: One thing I hope to do at some point is to break her dependence on having to be "clean as a whistle" by showering before sex
My 2 cents. Don't try to do this. Even HDW like me have trouble with this to some degree and need to be extremely aroused (or outdoors ) to not think about this to some extent. Don't get me wrong, I think you're right that she shouldn't be overly concerned, but this could be a very tough issue to confront and there are probably lots of issues that are more important to you that would be easier for her to deal with.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
) to not think about this to some extent. Don't get me wrong, I think you're right that she shouldn't be overly concerned, but this could be a very tough issue to confront and there are probably lots of issues that are more important to you that would be easier for her to deal with. 
