Well, yesterday W was back into full-blown allergy mode. For one thing, she mowed the lawn yesterday, and later said that she should've taken a shower afterward, because of all the grass and stuff on her after mowing the lawn. Washing that stuff off would probably have lessened her symptoms. So as we were cleaning up the kitchen after supper, she was telling me how miserable she felt, and I said "If you're really not up to it tonight, we can wait till the weekend." I also mentioned that on any given night, if I've indicated I'd like to ML, and she's just not feeling up to it, she should just say so, rather than make me wait till the end of the evening, or making a big display of how poorly she's feeling. I said that the other night, as soon as I said I'd like to, it seemed to me that she tensed up and wasn't into it, but she didn't say anything until bedtime. She said that she had initially thought she could, but that she had just gotten too tired. So last night I basically "gave her the night off", but come Friday night, I'll once again indicate my desire. In fact, I may just operate on assumption, and take a much more direct approach. One thing I hope to do at some point is to break her dependence on having to be "clean as a whistle" by showering before sex. If we can get rid of all that overhead, she may find it easier to ML on any given night, and at any rate it would be good if there could be a LOT less time between "the decision" and fulfilling it.
