Bye bye limbo -- it's time for a change

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Hi MLeigh, I can totally understand your frustration with your H and the mediation. But I think you are handling that well and focusing on what you get to control. If he missed the 'window' for that, despite your suggestion and information - well that's too bad. And now you will move the process forward as you think best.

Just one thing that occurred to me. I notice there have been a few interactions with MIL that have caused you to feel upset or angry. From all that you post about her, I wonder whether giving her any power is serving you well? She will probably carry on saying the kind of stuff she is saying - whether you choose to have that kind of conversation with her, or let what she says 'get to you' is up to you I think...anyway, food for thought maybe?

I'm so pleased you are finding the divorce group helpful. For me it was one of the best things I did and I made half a dozen or so lasting friendships from attending. As it was 2.5 years ago for me, people's lives are unfolding in different ways. Some still trying to finalise and resolve things, others remarried and some casually dating or happily single, but it has helped me immeasurably.

I found your post above a positive one in so many ways, and so Kudos to you my friend. And I get you with the hermit phase. I have those too and it is good to give yourself what you need.

Take care and big hugs to you xxx