MY XH had good communication with us for the first 2 years after bomb He visited, sometimes daily and took the kids out we talked a lot as friends during that time Then we got D..He didn't like the fact that MY L was real smart and I eventually had to take our business away because he was ruining it--he was coming to work high--he vanished and still no contact with us or his sisters- Many get pulled in deeper as time goes on and with no real help or desire to get therapy they get worse- many will vanish into their own new lives
You may not know the whys of it really-- If you can create a tape in your mind that benefits you-like- None of this is my fault MY H is deep in M:LC a real crises- I wish him the best and highest good I let go over an again I can do this on my own..I will make my life work God is with me- I will use all my energy for my healing and let him go If I feel sad I will feel it and carry on-
Maybe 100X a day keep saying it until you believe it..
keep posting do whatever helps you feel better take good care of you- we are all here rooting for your full 100% recovery
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow