WW, A ended, but struggling to reconnect (My 11th)

[25yearsmlc]

Jim, Are you asking what to do about something that happened a long time ago?

I'm not clear on how recent the flirty messages are (and yes, "I should be so lucky" IS absolutely flirtatious. To me that's not reasonably disputed).

And my opinion, not a that a boss probably would not initiate it. So, Is this last month February, or last year's February?

And Just to get my bearings on your timeline -
So, are all these events and various OM's and EAs or whatever you call them, all going back to the fall of 2016?

Yikes, that's a long phase of guessing and riddle playing to be mired in. I'm so sorry.

When you are in it, it's hard to see the forest for the trees.

Do you have a timeline in your mind about how long you'll give this? I'm just asking.





PS

the "I'll be all alone" comment was more flirting. The idea that your wife would think he needed HER input into wrestling so he could manage to understand what was happening, is a real stretch for me.

Our son wrestled A LOT, as did x h and my brothers. It's a silly explanation and very hard to imagine that a physician who is presumably reasonably intelligent, needs your wife to keep him company so he can understand what he's seeing.

IMO She has no boundaries, at best.

And I would not wait for her to go to IC, and then wait some more, for her to spontaneously figure out something that she has not yet come to understand.

Besides, isn't it up to YOU to set some boundaries? What will YOU accept?

Boundaries are not about you setting them on her, they are about you setting boundaries on what you will tolerate and for how long.

Have you thought about this?