WW, A ended, but struggling to reconnect (My 11th)

[hoosjim]

Sandi--these last posts of yours have been pure gold, thanks.

My plan: I will certainly bring this up with MC when i have my IC this coming week and get her input and seek her help in reemphasizing to my W the importance of appropriate boundaries. I will also continue to nudge W toward further IC of her own. Finally, if the opportunity presents itself, i will again voice my concerns-- more emphatically this time-- about her interactions with the doctor (I have enough to go on without outing myself for searching her text streams) and, perhaps, establishing a couple of boundaries of my own: "If we are going to be married and working on reconciling our MR, I can't accept you hanging out solo with other men, married or not, and i need to know you are committed to not sharing MR or other intimate information with other men, as well."

If she wants to be friends with other men, okay... but would only be appropriate for me to be present where such interactions occur.

The more i think about that text from the doctor, the more it bugs me... definitely flirtatious and suggestive. I could even see myself having used that line myself in the past... and i'd've only been looking for one thing in doing so.